Last week I turned 47. It was a week of lots of love and appreciation from important people in my life.
While reflecting on life in general, my stylist Jillian and I got together for a couple of client styling sessions last weekend.
What we both noticed once again is how powerful the expectations of other people play in our perceived ‘role’ and therefore how we need to look and dress.
Growing up in Seoul, where the standard of beauty (while the mere concept of it is oxymoronic) is so so high, the pressure to conform and look beautiful was such a huge part of the daily struggle. Of course, with my height (5.6”) + fairly short legs, and my frame (column shape), I really didn’t fit into the Korean beauty mould. And worst of all, at the time, I couldn’t afford to get any cosmetic surgery done on my face (thank goodness for that!)
Your story might be different. Perhaps, you were led to believe that you were cute and needed to remain that way. All the while you had this ‘rock & roll’ chick inside of you ready to burst out onto the scene.
Maybe you were encouraged or, God forbid, told to tone down what you were wearing because you were too dominant and loud otherwise. But the dynamic and powerful you resisted and railed at being tamed.
Even though I left my country of birth decades ago and haven’t lived there since it still took many years of trial and error to find my style that speaks the truths of who I am. But these days I’m here more free than ever about my ‘style’. *
Imagine what would be possible for you when you finally let go of the expectations (of others) and fully embrace what you could be (and look like).*I share all this and more in my book How Do You Want to BE SEEN.